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Emotional Management for Men
Learn what causes you to feel emotionally drained, and FIX IT!
Break the miserable emotional patterns that cause your life to feel empty and unfulfilled
Why is it that women are happy to go to a counsellor and pour out their hearts, but men would rather pull their own teeth, than express themselves to a 'shrink'? I think the idea of this opens up a whole can of worms for a man. It would not be unusual for a man to feel less significant, less of a man, because sharing in this way is seen as failure, giving up, or weakness.
NOTHING COULD BE FURTHER FROM THE TRUTH!
What do you know about it? What you do is women's work! You know, somebody actually said that to me......
It is true that there is a bit of caveman about it, but it's not just in instances of sharing in the therapeutic setting, because men tend to go to the doctor less, they put off operations for longer, they bottle things up and feel as if they have to be this big sponge that all the family can dump on with impunity.
Well I gotta tell you, that is only good for so long. If you have a bamboo cane and apply pressure it will readily bend. They are strong, they are flexible, useful, and long lasting in the harshest environments of heat and cold. But you keep adding to the pressure and eventually it will splinter along its length, or break at one of the joints.
Men aren't so different! Are you like the bent cane? Do you feel strong and manly keeping up this position of 'rock' upon which the family rests? Or, are you shouldering this responsibility with the sure knowledge that you are on a knife edge? Sometimes there is no warning and your life can crumble around you without you even realizing until it's too late. If it's not physical injury, of equal significance, is the emotional injury and pain that men suffer, which is far more difficult to see from the outside. Sure, it's easy enough when the problem is 'solved' with drink, or drugs, or angry outbursts, arguments with a spouse, or depression, but that's not a solution, and these things will lead to their own set of problems, like loss of intimacy, loss of self-respect and loss of respect from others.
What sort of pressures? Well, are you at your wits end with worry, in emotional pain, do you have family problems, recession pressures, is your employment in jeopardy? Are your children out of control? Do they answer back or ignore you? Do you feel your wife left you ages ago, but she is still at home? How much baggage do you carry around with you from childhood? Were you a lonely, isolated child? Did you feel abandoned because your brothers and sisters got all the attention? Did you fail at school and now feel you missed out on so much more because of it? Look, this list is endless, but I bet right now you are thinking about the very thing that brought you to this page! Am I right?
The question is; What are you going to do about it?. If the answer's nothing, read no further. But now that you've made it this far, take a moment to reflect on what brought you here. If it's costing you your family, your home, your job, it's costing you dear indeed. If you live near me, all you've got to do it pick up the phone! An appointment price list is available by clicking here. I look forward to welcoming you here, because I am a man, with a man's perspective, and I offer you the tools to make the difference. Call me! Phil.
What is it that makes us FEEL? Yes, that's right, our emotions. Emotions play a role in everything we do. Even when you feel you have suppressed them to thinner than a sheet of paper, the act of doing that makes them significant in our minds, in our bodies, in our lives. Emotions dictate how much effort you put into things, how you react to certain things, and how much influence other people have over you. They have control! Don't think so? Just think about all the time you spend switching them off and then answer.
Now for a man, relinquishing control is often a very serious proposition. It means losing the upper ground. It means leaving yourself open to attack, and it means you leave yourself vulnerable to injury, physical or otherwise. A broken heart hurts just as much as a broken arm. We protect ourselves from physical injury, so why should there be any less incentive to protect ourselves emotionally? I'd even go as far as to say, men fear emotional pain even more than they do physical pain. THAT'S WHY YOU SHUT DOWN and SHUT OFF! That's why eventually your wife won't understand you. That's why eventually your children won't respect you.
Children aren't afraid to face their emotions and deal with them. It's okay to cry when you're sad. It's okay to laugh when you're happy. But when you switch off the emotional responses, you are seen as emotionally immature. You become unreliable as a care giver because emotionally you are unreadable. This is confusing for wives, children, the whole family, and you are usually the last person to see what's happening, because you have made yourself immune to the families stress and pain. Don't believe me? ASK THEM. You might be surprised at what you hear.
Why can I never decide or find the time to sort these things out?
Easy! Because you don't plan to!
What do you want? What do you really want to get out of life? Do you want good health, financial independence, a stress free existence? Of course. But how clear are you about achieving these goals? Do you have a plan? Do you plan to invest your physical energy? Yes. Mental energy? Yes. Time? Yes. Emotional energy? Emotional what? Get outta here!
You've just discovered the fatal flaw!
People who do not plan to include emotional energy in their future - cannot have one! It takes patience, it takes practice. You have to pay attention to your emotional health, to your emotional well-being, to your emotional security and to your emotional maintenance. You have to accumulate enough momentum in your own self healing that you don't have to worry about it anymore.
Emotional Management for Men. Emotional pain is some of the hardest to deal with, whether it be shame, sadness, guilt, fear, pride, neglect, abandonment, jealousy, anger, addiction, phobia, stress, panic, plain old disappointment, or any other emotion. Let me give you the tools to cope! One or two sessions will show you that what happens here is a different approach. One specifically designed by a man, for men. Whatever the identified need in you, visit The Haven Healing Centre in Blagdon for assistance. Appointments and price list are available by clicking here. I look forward to welcoming you to The Haven Healing Centre and getting started as soon as possible. Till then, Phil.
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