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Ultimate Relationship Counselling
Step up and create the relationship you've always wanted - NOW!
Answer these questions and ponder these points by relating them to your relationship:
What will this program do for me?
If you regularly experience anger, guilt, sadness, shame, loss or fear, instead of joy, happiness, gratitude, excitement or compassion, then this program will help you understand your emotional patterns and the needs they meet within you, and to make bold new decisions that will change your life forever.
The pursuit of love is one of our most powerful urges. We will do almost anything to get it. When we have it, and it is taken away from us, the pain can be almost unbearable. The pain of divorce is one such cause of us having to go through this trauma. There are many ways this can happen. For example, when a partner falls in love with somebody else. But that is by no means the only way this can happen. Sometimes the pain of lost love can happen in a relationship that is in many ways, still functional. The passion is gone, but somehow the relationship remains on a different level.
Rate these human needs on a 1-10 level.
Help for couples in a troubled relationshipHow is your counselling different than other counsellors?
I use a form of counselling I call 'intervention' counselling. That is, if I think something will help you, I will tell you what I think, not leave you to dream it up for yourself, by accident, or on purpose.
Usually, couples (or singles), find me after searching desperately on the internet for someone to help their relationship. They often come here as a last resort, because they've tried everything else available. So often a couple will present themselves who have been to Relate, or some other relationship counsellor, usually for months of appointments, who are still fighting, resentful, feeling unloved, non-cooperative, alone and downright miserable, but afraid to change or do anything about it. When I ask how they got on, the reply is, 'a bloody waste of time, they never said anything, just listened and made notes'. When I ask if the counsellors they met offered any advice, they just shrug their shoulders and say things like, 'nothing I heard'.
This told me not to offer the same thing! I had to come up with something different; something that made sense to them in a proactive way, not just a listening event, but one which was lively with the banter going back and forth. Questions and answers that delved deep into their behaviour and beliefs. One way conversations are useless in these circumstances and are probably why the relationship got into this mess in the first place.
So the reason I'm different is because I won't let you get away with anything. Creating healing in your relationship is a MUST, not a should. Most people say, oh I should do this, or I should do that, or if I give 50%, he has to give 50% (thinking that makes 100%), but that is so wrong. Basically, they SHOULD all over each other and wonder why the relationship stinks!
Some people ask why, if things are so bad, is there any point in making things better. The answer is because almost all relationships started out good. You had a good reason to hook up, you found each others company a turn on, and you fell in love. What went wrong is gradually, over time, you failed to fulfill each others human needs. Things tapered off, through complacency, boredom or just plain old time. Attitudes become entrenched, pain is felt, arguments follow, and the storm approaches.
My message to you is simple. Don't just sit around fuming that your partner doesn't understand you. Take the problem and give it some airtime in a comfortable, inviting, and confidential environment. Don't just think your relationship is doomed, or that it will get better on it's own. It probably won't do either! It can go on festering while you poison each other, or you can turn it around. If this idea resonates with you, I invite you to visit The Haven Healing Centre in Blagdon for a course of 'interventions'. Appointments and a treatment price list are available by clicking here. I look forward to welcoming you soon. Phil.
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It's a small investment in yourself, but could be a life-changing experience you will cherish forever.
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